As I scrolled through my Facebook timeline, filled with snapshots of happy times with friends, fun vacations, field trips with my kids, celebrations of family birthdays, random fun moments and silly or amusing antidotes about my life, I couldn’t help but think, “Gosh, I have a perfect life.”
Yeah, yeah, I know what you’re thinking, and you’re absolutely right. No one has a perfect life. My life, like everyone else’s, has its fair share of personal struggles and frustrations. Facebook allows us to share the highlights of life while leaving out the more mundane, less memorable and difficult moments and challenges in life. Most of us are not sharing pictures of a sink full of dirty dishes, selfies while binge watching Game of Thrones, or discussing in detail the struggles of complicated relationships.
Like most people, I like to share the good stuff, the fun stuff. Not because I want to impress anyone or create a false façade of a perfect life. Frankly, most people probably don’t find my status updates all that interesting. It’s pretty basic stuff, really. People are probably tired of seeing pictures of me and my sister at a winery, and are most likely bored to death of the dozens of pictures of my kids blowing out birthday candles. The truth is, there are many people going to far more interesting places, with much more fascinating people and eating much better food. But that’s not the point. The point is, my Facebook life is perfect to ME. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks or feels about it. My timeline is a reflection of memes, moments, photos and thoughts that are special, memorable and amusing to me. These are the moments that make me happy. These are the moments I am grateful for. These are the moments I want to remember.
There is no such thing as a perfect life, only perfect moments. Seconds or minutes when the mundane and difficult realities of life disappear, where we find happiness, laughter, love, joy and peace. These are the moments we need to recognize and put our time and attention on. These are the moments we should be grateful for and highlight in our minds every day. These simple little fleeting moments of perfection are what make life beautiful and memorable. So make them, capture them, gather them, collect them and hoard them. Post them on your timeline and in your mind, share them with others and scroll through them often.